“The rules for eating Korean BBQ are to eat quickly and eat a lot.”

The barbecued meat must get to our plates seconds after being cooked.

Then an unspoken dance would begin.

Cooking Korean BBQ with chopsticks on an electric cooktop

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Thinly sliced beef brisket shingles, still frozen, sat next to the portable stove.

He urged us to eat quickly.

Eating while hot was tantamount.

Collage of two images, one close up of Korean BBQ assembled on a lettuce leaf, one of a woman enjoying BBQ

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The rules for eating Korean BBQ are to eat quickly and eat a lot.

Did I always know how to hold my chopsticks?

Since when did I know if the kimchi was too fermented, or not fermented enough?

A women reaching for more Korean BBQ

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This portable camp stove popped up on our table regularly.

It was a reliable and easy dinner option that she could reach for at any time.

I followed along, folding the leaves into the corners of my cheeks.

A group of friends around a table enjoying Korean BBQ

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This learned awareness carried across many dinner tables.

Its also how I learned to eat non-Korean food: by watching friends or strangers eat.

I hosted my first Korean BBQ during Hurricane Irene, my namesake.

A women assembling Korean BBQ and toppings on a lettuce leaf

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I was stuck in my railroad Brooklyn apartmentthe subways and local businesses shut down out of caution.

With nowhere to go and nothing else to do, I invited friends over for a dinner party.

I pulled out my own portable camp stove and a couple of butane cans I had bought.

Two woman enjoying Korean BBQ

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A group of friends around a table enjoying Korean BBQ

Simply Recipes / Christine Han